Ever received a compliment and instinctively shrugged it off, hiding behind phrases like 'just being a team player' or 'you would do the same'? For the longest time, 'thank you' after a compliment was not in my vocabulary. It took me years to realize that the issue ran deeper than mere modesty—it was about feeling unworthy. Join me in discovering the transformative journey from a time when acknowledging my own worth seemed like a foreign concept and uncover the aha moment that changed everything.
As I contemplated the feeling of unworthiness, I started noticing I was not the only one having this experience. I became aware of how hard I was on myself and began recognizing this same trait in others. Being hard on oneself is emotionally draining. I would be paid a compliment by a client and just could not accept it on face value; instead, I would think about how I could be better. It was here that I began to realize how deep-seated the unworthiness was.
Recognizing the impact this had on my ability to receive compliments, my coach—a guiding voice in my transformation—pointed out the challenge I faced in truly receiving. This acknowledgment became a turning point, leading me to delve into the layers of my self-perception and the difficulty I had in accepting genuine praise.
As I embarked on the journey of self-discovery, I realized the need for self-forgiveness. Going deep within, I began identifying and inventorying the thoughts that depicted my unworthiness. The process of self-forgiveness was transformative, opening up a sense of worthiness that had long eluded me.
The transformative power of self-forgiveness was profound. Not only did it change my life, but it also nurtured a deep-seated love for myself and extended to others. This newfound sense of worthiness became the foundation for recognizing the inherent value in every human being and extending them loving kindness.
Recently, I had an aha moment that giving and receiving are inseparable, much like two sides of a coin. Without a giver, there is no receiver, and vice versa. This realization was akin to discovering the interconnectedness of darkness and light. It brought to mind the concept of a Möbius strip, which is a surface with a single continuous side formed by twisting one end of a rectangular strip through 180° and joining the ends. The Möbius strip, initially appearing to have two sides, reveals upon close examination that there’s only one—much like the interconnected nature of giving and receiving.
Understanding that giving and receiving require a sense of worthiness, I encourage self-observation. Becoming conscious of unconscious thoughts, particularly the negative self-talk that often operates beneath the radar, is crucial. This self-awareness is the key to unlocking a divine sense of worthiness and love.
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An acknowledgement: I express deep gratitude for the numerous teachers who have been a part of my life's journey. From the educators I actively engaged with to those who silently imparted invaluable lessons, I am truly indebted to all of you for shaping the course of my life. Your impact is immeasurable, and I owe a significant portion of my life's journey to each one of you.
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